my Proverbs 31 goals

1. To have desires for/of my husband and son - rather than expectations. I've actually been told this more than once the last week. The problem is not my husband - it is my expectations. It is my goal to have NO expectations of my husband for the next 3 years - someone told me this last week and I thought it was ridiculous, but now I get it - I can either be disappointed that he can't meet them or be thrilled and appreciative when he is able to help. This is a goal I will surely fail at more than once, but it is one I am committed to continue working toward. My husband is human and there is only so much one man can do when he works somewhere between 80-120 hours in a week. The Lord WILL give me the desires of my heart - but expectations that require more of J than he can give will only disappoint me and discourage him. (This is genuinely an issue of hours in J's day to help during this season - not his willingness - and it is unfair to continue to make him feel like failure because I set unfair expectations - but this is going to be HARD)
2. To love with a servant's heart. I need to have a serious heart check and serve my husband and son with joy - rather than bitterness and complaining. I made/am making a Home Management Binder and after next week when I am home - I want to have dinner made for my husband and have the chores done - so he can relax in a peaceful home - rather than both of us running circles trying to keep up and take care of a baby at the same time. J already has to miss so much - he needs to be able to enjoy the time he has at home I'm asking the Lord to help me to do this with a joyful heart - to find fulfillment and success in caring for my boys. I know that as I make this transition I may struggle - but my goal is to do this with a happy heart so as not to make my husband feel guilty or think or feel like he should be doing more.
3. To maintain consistent time with the Lord. I have never been good at making this a permanent priority in my life, but I know it will help immensely with my other goals.