I looked, I listened, and I read and there are a lot of mommy blogs, a lot of baby blogs, a lot of military wife blogs, and so many other types of blogs - but while I searched for the community where I would fit - I couldn't find it (although, for months, every blog address I thought of was taken, blank or had one post, and abandoned). I couldn't find a community for the families of surgeons or even medical professionals of any type. So, I thought, if I put myself out there and the unique struggles that we face - maybe eventually another young bride - who has been thrust into the world of residencies, interviews, and fellowships with no more medical knowledge than what she got from old episodes of ER and Grey's Anatomy (which J hates that I love) - will find this blog and others like it and we can form a community of our own. So that, when she's not quite sure what she got herself into and she googles surgeon and wife or family - she will get more than scary statistics about divorce and bitter commentary about how disliked surgeons are - she will instead find support and friendship - something to help cut through the loneliness and fear to help her to see and know that this is HARD and there is someone else out there who gets it - someone who has been in her shoes - calling her husband at the hospital at 3am to tell him that she is in labor, packing her home alone with a baby while her husband works 80hr work weeks (on average - some weeks may be better than that, but not many) or trying to take care of your sick baby while sick yourself and your husband is a thousand miles away at a conference and all of his medical knowledge and advice only serve to frighten you more, rather than provide comfort - it's amazing what a cold or flu or fall can turn into in the eyes of a worried surgeon daddy, who has seen the worst.
I wish when I started out this journey there was someone else who had been there who could have helped us along this journey - because it hasn't always been what I thought it would be (which I think is true of most marriages)!
I think (especially as so many blog addresses that I wanted were taken) that there is a hunger for this type of community - yet there is also a fear - that you/I/we may say something wrong and hinder our husband/wife's career (which we are first-hand witnesses to seeing how incredibly hard that they have worked for this). The last thing that any of us wants to do is put our foot in our mouths or harm the reputations of a hospital or a program or especially of our spouses as physicians! For these reasons, while I am doing this to chronicle our lives and to connect with other women/ wives/ mommas/ people from all walks of life - I will be keeping this blog fairly anonymous - so if you know me or us - please don't post any identifying information about us, about programs, or where we are living now or in the past or future!
Welcome friends - welcome family looking to get a closer peak into our lives, welcome the curious who always wondered what it would be like to "marry a doctor" or what a doctor's life is like outside the office/hospital - I think you will be more than a little surprised - welcome women, wives, and mommas of all types - married, single, working, stay-at-home, and any others - I believe that
This will be a blog about life - being a wife, a mom, a Christian, caring for our home, being creative, and all of the things that make this life worth living. Stick around and let's get to know each other!
*I felt like starting here didn't give enough of who I am or where I came from - so prior to this post I have imported some of the posts from my previous blog - for more foundation and history!*
